Wednesday, February 11, 2015

19 Months: The Invisible Consequences of Cancer

It's been just over a month since I've updated the blog. I suppose one would argue that no news is good news with respect to posting the results of Kavan's 18 month check-up from January. So, I'll fill in the "blank" and let you all know that Kavan's 18 month scans and bloodwork all came back clear-no recurrence of cancer! As I mentioned before, I always breathe a giant sigh of relief when Kavan receives this news. Knowing it is much different than hearing it from a trusted source.

Otherwise, life is good and Kavan and I are both well. We are both fighting the academic battle as Kavan is studying for his CPA designation and me for my PhD. I am so thankful for Kavan's
health as anything but would present great challenges for our current pursuits.

Though cancer is far from our thoughts most days, it still seems to have a significant grip on our lives. I think most people assume that when the medical battle is done and won, then life returns to normal. I can assure you that this is not the case. At the present time, Kavan looks physically well. One who is not aware of his battle with Ewing's Sarcoma, would likely not guess that he is a cancer survivor. Case and point the individual who suggested that Kavan should consider growing his hair out! He/She is lucky that Kavan is such an easy-going person, as this suggestion made him laugh more than anything. Situations like these make me think though. It must be difficult for Kavan and other young adults to be reminded of their cancer battles even after finishing treatment.

Apart from the physical challenges Kavan has faced post-treatment (lack of hair growth and mobility/range of motion in his affected ankle), there are some less obvious, more permanent life/financial implications. More specifically in relation to his ability to obtain life insurance, health insurance, mortgage insurance and so on.. I'm sure you get the point. His age and stage of life are obviously impacted differently than one diagnosed with cancer later in life who perhaps doesn't have to worry about these things in quite the same manner. So, what does this mean for us/Kavan/some other relatively young adult diagnosed with cancer? That we have to think especially carefully when buying a house/car or leaving a job and giving up health benefits. Having a previous diagnosis of cancer makes Kavan ineligible for many of these insurances OR if he is eligible, the premiums are exorbitant. As a couple, we often find ourselves discussing these largely invisible consequences of a cancer diagnosis. We must be strategic about our purchases or job choices to ensure we are adequately prepared should a future cancer diagnosis arise. We must mull over our choices just a little longer than our peers, something that is perhaps taken for granted by those who have faced a life-threatening illness at a young age.

A 'throwback' to June 2013 and Kavan's last chemotherapy session
Now, I do not intend for this blog to be taken as a means to gain sympathy for our personal situation. Because of our "mulling" and strategic decisions, Kavan and I are quite financially sound at the moment. I do, however, want this blog to serve as a reminder of the far-reaching effects of a cancer diagnosis and the potential long-term implications. Though life is good once one is in remission, cancer is never really that far from their thoughts. One simple trip to the bank or conversation with an insurance broker will remind us of that!

Wednesday, January 7, 2015

2014, A Year in Review

Happy 2015! This post is long overdue! It seems that I've gotten so busy with life and as a result my blog has suffered. I suppose that it really is a good thing that I'm not updating as it must mean Kavan is well and we're not thinking about cancer. But here's the update for all of those overseas as well as those who are just curious!

2014 was quite the year. It was Kavan's first entire year of cancer freedom. Woohoo! As well, and perhaps most importantly, we were married in 2014! Kavan started his CPA designation and I've continued along with my PhD at the University of Alberta. We both enjoyed happiness and health over the past year (Yeah!).

Kavan's due for his 18 month check up this Friday at the Cross Cancer Institute. I've said it before-these check-ups are always a little anxiety provoking. Especially this one as he is expected to undergo a full day of tests (7-3) and will likely come out glowing from all of the radiation (not literally). So-please send all of your thoughts and well wishes Kavan's way. I know in my heart he remains cancer free, but positive thoughts can't hurt.

And here's our pictorial 2014 year in review:


Jan 2014 Monopoly with Bobo

Feb 2014 Selfies with Patrick

New baby (not ours!) May 2014

Kelowna Wedding July


Our big day-Aug 2014

August Honeymoon in Jamaica

September Wedding in London

October night out


Kavan's 28th Birthday

Movember with Mark

Best. Uncle. Ever

New Year's

Hope you all had a lovely 2014. Here's to a happy 2015 and another year of cancer freedom for Kavan! I will update after his next visit to the Cross!

Friday, October 31, 2014

15 Months!

It's been an eternity since I updated the blog. For that I apologize! After one of the busiest summers in recent memory we've finally settled into a nice little routine and therefore I have a little extra time to update you all on what's been going on with Kavan and I.

First off, Kavan was recently at the Cross Cancer Institute for his 15-month check up. Good news: he's once again been given the all-clear. No sign of any cancer anywhere. It's funny how cancer changes you and your perspectives on health. I think many who have gone through this experience themselves or have cared for a loved one (like myself), find themselves wondering if and when the cancer will emerge. We look for little clues-sudden weight loss, aches/pains to determine if our loved one is healthy. Then, we hold our breaths when the routine check-ups come along. For myself I know that Kavan's initial diagnosis was such a shock, how could one who looks so well on the outside be seriously sick on the inside? I kind of stopped trusting my instincts and started always bracing for the worst. I suppose that's why the check-ups are so anxiety-provoking.

Kavan had just one scan with this particular check-up, a chest CT. While I am thankful that the barrage of radiation/tests has lessened, I do worry if something would be missed! I am not sure that feeling will ever subside. Maybe this just goes with the territory of being a cancer survivor or a cancer survivor's loved one.

On to happier news, we finally tied the knot in August. It was a magical day and we were surrounded by the love from our family and friends. We truly had a blast and I couldn't imagine things going any better, though the heat that day was stifling! Since then we've travelled to Jamaica for our honeymoon, Banff and finally England for the wedding of Kavan's cousin. It was a bit of a whirlwind and I'm glad we've settled into a routine back home.

Our Wedding. Photo by Iawar Photography

Favorite Wedding Photo by Iawar Photography

Photo by Stril & Rae Photo
Kavan & I in Banff


London Bridge with the lego man


Thurlow wedding in London


Happy 28th Birthday Kavan!


Kavan also celebrated his 28th birthday this week! He still likes to remind me that I'm older than him.

Happy Halloween!